You are a virgin if you have never had sexual intercourse. Some cultures would want a girl to stay a virgin until the day she gets married. In modern society, this may not always be followed. You make your own choices as you become more independent. Just think of the responsibilities that come with being sexually active. Your parents and friends won’t always be near you to give advice. So it is wise to learn from your family and reliable friends while you can.
Q: Would I be able to know if a woman is still a virgin?
A: You can never really tell. Not by the way your friend walks or through any changes in her skin or mood. An unbroken hymen which is the ring-like film that partly covers the vaginal opening may be a sign that a girl is a virgin. But then again, this is not always true. The hymen can stretch and may still remain intact even after sex.
Q: If I stay a virgin for a long time will this affect my sexual response later on?
A: The decision on when, how and to whom you will “lose” your virginity is yours alone. Remember, a lot of responsibilities come with having sex. Even if you wait longer, say another 5 or 10 years, until you are more prepared, your sexual response will not be affected. Stay healthy and eat well. The healthier you are in mind and body, the more confident you will be. Confidence plus a healthy lifestyle boost sexual response.
Q: Is the hymen broken only by sexual activity?
A: This film-like covering in the vaginal opening may differ in character from woman to woman. It may be more elastic or readily stretched in some women. It is not only sexual activity which causes a tear in the hymen. Certain physical activities like cycling and horseback riding may break your hymen.
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Why is losing one’s virginity a big deal?
A: Whether or not losing your virginity is a big deal, depends on how you consider the experience. Some women may see it as the next step to a serious relationship. A woman may also consider her virginity as a “gift” to a partner she sees as worthy. Losing one’s virginity may also leave a mark in a woman’s wellbeing, years after she had her first sexual intercourse. This may be due to embarrassment caused by feelings of inexperience and inadequacy.
The first sexual experience is an emotional and spiritual awakening for many women who see themselves and their partners as prepared emotionally and mentally. For some, it may be an experience that may not hold any significance. For others, decisions brought about by immaturity and impulsiveness may transform the experience into something painful and bitter.
