What is necking and petting? Are these harmful?
Young men and women begin to get really curious about sex as they reach their teens around the end of puberty. They begin to start forming exclusive relationships with the opposite sex. For some, this can be a wild and crazy period. It’s a time to experiment and a time to discover one’s sexuality. Necking and petting may involve kissing and fondling of the breasts and sex organs. They are sexual ways of expressing attraction and interest. They may not exactly lead to sexual intercourse. Necking and petting do not mean that your partner is actually being serious with you and they should not be used as a yardstick for love.
How can I say “no” to my boyfriend’s sexual advances?
Young guys can be very gung ho about sex. As they grow towards sexual maturity, there is a need to act and feel like a man. In the beginning of a relationship, you can talk to your boyfriend about this. If you are not ready for sex, then no one should force you to do so. A good guy will understand this and will respect your decision. If a guy insists on having sex with you, stand your ground and firmly say “no”. If he becomes more aggressive, then you should know what to do… run and don’t look back!
Is premarital sex a good way to test sexual compatibility?
Great sex is important when you finally decide to be with someone but it’s not the be all and end all of a great relationship. Having sexual intercourse before marriage is premarital sex. There is no guarantee that good sex before marriage will actually last after marriage. Responsibilities always follow marriage and sex. There is a chance of getting yourself pregnant. When the excitement of romantic love fades, then reality starts to sink in. Too much reality such as paying the rent and working late nights can put your sex life in jeopardy. So great sex starts with being a mature and confident person. When you are finally ready, you are more relaxed and secure with your partner. This turns sex into a channel for communicating and connecting with each other which is always great!
What are the consequences of premarital sex?
Sex may sound exciting and romantic but with it comes responsibilities. As a young woman, ask yourself if you are ready for any of these:
- STIs
You may get sexually transmitted infections during premarital sex. Young people may not be well informed about protecting themselves during sex.
- Pregnancy
You may be embarrassed about telling your family and friends that you have had sex before marriage. Premarital sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies. Young people may engage in sex and not know about contraception. Your partner’s feelings about using contraception may also influence your decision on whether to use contraceptives or not.
- Financial responsibilities
Pregnancy brings along a multitude of responsibilities. As a mother and a wife, your views will change. Gone are the Friday night partying and frequent outings with your girlfriends. Your body will undergo changes and once baby comes into your life, you will need to spend more time at home to provide for baby’s needs.
- Emotional Baggage
You may feel guilty about having sex before marriage. In the long run, if the relationship does not work out, you may risk feeling bad about everything. You may feel betrayed or cheated. In each relationship, there are risks that need to be taken. Just make sure you are ready to face these risks.
